Relationships in Supernatural
May. 31st, 2014 02:19 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
essexiteSam is the chick in the relationship.
It recently occurred to me that Sam plays the part of the woman in his relationship with Dean.
1. He's expected to put Dean first instead of focusing on his own needs, and is called selfish on the rare occasions he's tried to do anything he likes.
2. He's supposed to do everything Dean wants whenever Dean wants, live his life solely on Dean's turns and pump up Dean's ego.
3. He's supposed to apologize endlessly for things that happened years ago that he's apologized for repeatedly and done his best to atone for while Dean won't apologize for anything he's done.
4. He's supposed to take Dean's abuse cheerfully, and support Dean without question, but god forbid he isn't 100% supportive or makes a crack about Dean.
5. Dean's pain is automatically seen as worse and more important than any suffering Sam has gone through.
6. Sam is economically dependent on Dean. When Sam tried to get an education so he could support himself he was called a betrayer and accused of abandoning Dean.
In short, Sam is the chick.
It recently occurred to me that Sam plays the part of the woman in his relationship with Dean.
1. He's expected to put Dean first instead of focusing on his own needs, and is called selfish on the rare occasions he's tried to do anything he likes.
2. He's supposed to do everything Dean wants whenever Dean wants, live his life solely on Dean's turns and pump up Dean's ego.
3. He's supposed to apologize endlessly for things that happened years ago that he's apologized for repeatedly and done his best to atone for while Dean won't apologize for anything he's done.
4. He's supposed to take Dean's abuse cheerfully, and support Dean without question, but god forbid he isn't 100% supportive or makes a crack about Dean.
5. Dean's pain is automatically seen as worse and more important than any suffering Sam has gone through.
6. Sam is economically dependent on Dean. When Sam tried to get an education so he could support himself he was called a betrayer and accused of abandoning Dean.
In short, Sam is the chick.
